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Change our habits, every bit counts

The Light Of Life - Sunshine Breakfast
Sunday, January 28, 2018

RARE are those who have a good sense of how to do things right and keep adjusting until they do it right.

Driven by ego, most of us respond to external stimuli in their habitual ways rather than adapt themselves to the situation. Repeating and lingering habits are not at all unfamiliar to any of us.

Habits drown and blind us. They have to be dealt with tolerance and thoroughly, as the first great step towards saving us from troubles.

Life is meant to allow all possibilities and so we must allow and accept the recurrence of our own habits.

This very act of allowing, understanding and tolerating carries great importance and deserves constant care. Why? Because we love to get mentally confused! How can we tolerate others if we are not tolerant towards ourselves?

Rejecting comes from forbidding and so does blaming, either on ourselves or on others. We hate the fact that we cannot get rid of our bad habits but we fail to realise that these rejections and blame, in turn, fortify the very habit we strive to change. This haunting habit will thus turn into a knot that is almost impossible to release.

Many of us know that bad habits are hard to change so we tell ourselves to work harder on it. But the harder we work on changing those habits, the more persistent they tend to become. Therefore, allowing everything and understanding all is the key to untying the tightening knot of our mind.

The blame we lay on ourselves and others is not readily visible because we tend to keep it deep in our mind. The mind knot thus keeps tightening up.

Without compassion or clear knowledge of the persisting nature of our habits, we become judgmental of others and find it hard to allow other people's habits to surface. Let's grant ourselves a bit more tolerance, allow ourselves to linger just a little bit in our habits, and we will develop a capacity to understand and empathise with other people.

Trapped by the desire to achieve perfection, we expect too much from ourselves and others, and that brings us sufferings. Go and find peace in being plain, staying simple and refraining from thinking little of yourself or blaming others. This very act of refraining, which makes us gain a peaceful and relaxed mind when habits occur, this is the critical cause we need to work on in daily life.

Let's allow ourselves and others to accommodate to causes and conditions. We will then find in life more ease, pleasure and peace with every bit of change along the way.

* The Light of Life — Sunshine Breakfast team is from China. They invariably follow the instruction and methods of the ancient Chinese sages and enlightened ones so as to try to solve all kinds of problems and worries in life.

? The views expressed are not of this newspaper.

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