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Wise Muavono, Lautoka
Sunday, October 29, 2017

With my desire to be accepted in mind, I created an image that I knew people would like.

I wasn't knowingly deceiving people. I was actually only deceiving myself.

I believed I was the image I had created and I turned this image into my identity, without fully understanding how I was disrespecting who I truly was in the process.

With this image of being someone everyone liked, swearing didn't make the cut. I was labelled as cute, and adorable. And gosh darn it, cute and adorable people just don't swear.

But, Wise Muavono does.

Whooooooop, there it is. Offended?

My use of the "F word" might offend you. There's a part of me that wants to understand why, but we can leave that for another day. However, if you're operating from the belief that young man shouldn't talk like that, I simply ask you to explore why you think you have the right to tell a young man what he can and cannot do.

I want to make it clear: I do not swear at people. No. Do I simply include the occasional "F word" here and there? Yes.

As weird as it sounds, holding myself back from swearing was a way I was holding myself back from who I truly am.

Does my identify revolve around swearing? Absolutely not.

But the fact that I needed to censor myself regularly is where the problem lies. I was valuing the opinion of others more than I was valuing myself.

You may not swear, but I know you understand where I'm coming from. It's about honouring your truth chain.

How are you holding yourself back from your truth? Do you say, act, do, and choose certain things with others in mind while ignoring what you actually want to say, act, do and choose?

The answer is probably yes, in a small or big way.

You may be reading this thinking how silly and small it is to view that not swearing is a rejection of yourself.

But, that's the thing. These small things add up. You compromise here and there.

You say this and that. You do that and this. And while you say, act, do and choose these things that go against who you are, you're quietly telling your true self to take a seat.

Honour yourself. Choose the opinion you hold of yourself, regardless of what others think. Respect who you truly are.

Swear. Let people know how it makes you feel. Allow yourself to be yourself. I'm begging you.

Don't get me wrong. This isn't about blatantly ignoring others either. I understand that there are times where we need to follow more widely accepted rules.

But, will I censor myself anymore even when people tell me how disgusting it is? No, I "F" won't.

And, I hope you won't hold yourself back from your truth, either.

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