KAILA - What Girls Really Think About Guys...
As Told By Jessilyn, a 16-Year Old Girl
HERE is an email from Jessilyn, a 16-year old girl. The email was full of really great advice for guys her age - guys who are interested in finding out what all the girls around them really want in relationships. If youre one of those guys, read on to find out what a girl wants from you for real.
1. Girls Dont Only Like Confident Guys.
We get a little worried if you freeze up when we talk to you, but otherwise, its OK to be shy. It makes it even more impressive if you approach us first. Take a chance; dont hold back. Its better than spending your entire life wondering what if...?
2. Girls Dont Care Much About Your Bad Skin
Acne isnt rare in teens! Most girls will see past it, so dont stress. Its likely that the majority of people around you also have acne, including girls. One day youll get over the acne stage, but for now, just know its not a factor that girls care too much about.
3. Girls DO Care About Hygiene
Its OK to let yourself go sometimes, like on the weekends or when youre out getting sweaty. But a guy who showers daily, shaves regularly, brushes his hair and teeth and has nice nails is appealing. But dont wear nail polish! Not to be sexist, but its unappealing to most girls because its feminine. Also, some girls cant stand guys who bite their nails, so try not to. (Though we do it sometimes, too.)
4. Dont Be Afraid to Have Fun
When it comes to flirting and dating, have fun and be yourself. That way, if you dont get the girl in the end, youll still have your friends, some great memories, and your whole life ahead of you. Dont push your friends away or fight over a girl or anything like that. Its never worth it.
5. Not Every Girl Wants the Stereotypical, Masculine Guy
You know...like guys with big muscles, a six-pack and tanned skin. I, myself, prefer a guy whos more natural looking. If you like to work out and take care of yourself, then by all means, go for it, thats great! But dont go overboard cause at the end of the day, you still have to be cuddly :)
6. Girls Wont Stand for Being Used
Dont even think about asking a girl out if youre going to use her and then dump her! Most girls dont want to have sex until theyre married or have met the right person. Dont ever force a girl to do anything, and dont try to get a girlfriend just to get lucky. If thats the case, give up now. Were looking for someone to love, to date long-term, and to adore for the way they make us feel.
7. Girls Dont Like to Be Teased Too Much
We hate it and get the complete wrong idea from it. It makes us feel self-conscious, and often, if a guy who teases a girl ends up asking her out, shell have her doubts and be put off. Treat her well - compliment her, strike up conversations. Dont sit on MSN waiting for her to make the first move. Girls love a man who makes the first move.
8. The Bad Boy Thing Probably Wont Work
The bad boy persona isnt appealing to all girls. If you try to be bad for a girl and things with you two dont work out, then your reputation is ruined. And if youre not really a bad boy, then youre being fake. Youre better off just being yourself.
9. Dont Use More Hair Products Than We Do
I do admit, some guys can look really hot when they pull of the gelled/spiked-up look, but really - it gets weird if you spend more time on your hair in the morning than we do. And dont just go and dye your hair some super gross color that makes you look awful. Natural is often better.
10. Girls Like You Just the Way You Are
Girls dont expect you to change. We love you whether youre large, skinny, tall, short...whatever. WE LOVE YOU. The little things you do can be more than enough to get a girl hooked: open a door, pick up something shes dropped, say hi, help her when shes struggling in class...whatever it is, she will appreciate it. Whenever a guy does something to or for a girl - good or bad - well think about it for the next few minutes or right up until we go to bed at night. Dont confuse us or leave us with a bad impression of you.